Timidity

Timidity is a fear to not bother others with something you do, to not be in the center of attention to others. Paradoxically, timidity is opposite to natural human behavior. This makes me think that the origin of timidity is in the early childhood. Little children instinctually want to be in the center of attention and they will pretty much use all the necessary resources to obtain that. At this point it’s critical how harsh is the punishment from the grownups. Excessive punishment (even if it’s only verbose) may create the fear that powers up timidity. Timidity is also fueled up by a factor of isolation. In a way parents are the oppression and your friends the resistance. In other words people of the same age are more likely to accept your stupidities than older ones.

Resuming, timidity consists of:

• Fear not to bother
• Fear not to be in the center of attention
• Isolation factor

It’s important to mention that usually timidity installs itself at the instinctual level and is only eliminated by abruptly eliminating the generators.

The opposites of shy persons are the overconfident ones. In this world, the shy persons are the prey and the overconfident persons are the predators. When you form yourself as a person, there are several layers of behavior that interact and depend one on another. Because timidity is on a lower layer it is very difficult to extract and it requires multiple changes in almost all the layers. I guess that the key to success of timidity banishment is the isolation factor: forcing of being with other people will finally reduce the fears and most probably terminate them. But the shy person have to fight himself and push the relational interaction further even if he thinks he does ridiculous things. Unfortunately shy persons will not become very sociable easily, and in most cases is a matter of context.